Name & Shame register for Alienators

I think in it's simplistic view " naming and shaming " could be looked at as revenge or way of effectively causing pain to someone but it gets a little more complex than that when we think of victims.

In many instances a victim of any abuse will find it hard to name their abuser especially when we talk about abused children who have been programed specifically to feel the abuser is a form of protector or someone to be protected.

In my situation I would find it hard to justify outing my daughters mother it would not be beneficial to any of the parties and I am already working with all the facts and truths with an aim to provide my daughter with the tools needed for subtle combat of her mothers games, I see my daughter regularly and we have an extremely stable relationship that benefits her.

If you take someone who is being held to ransom through alienation and is fighting hard just to have a relationship with their kids who may be subjected to guilt and fear as a method of control, they may find it hard to even talk about what they go through and part of the healing may be to speak the name of the offender and gain strength from this.

Equally if there is a child who has suffered from years of abuse the same healing process may be needed to make it all real for them and help them forward.

Perhaps a forum isn't the place to do this But I do believe there is more than one benefit in saying a name and it is not always about ego's, pride or revenge. We are very complex and when our spirit is driven into submission it's important we are built up again to gain confidence and fight for our beliefs but in many cases it takes a long time to get there and this may just be something that helps victims.

Mind you I could be totally wrong and the section could only be used by those seeking revenge for their own egotistical folly. 

All best D4E

I can relate easily to what you are saying ... I have been a target for more than 6 years now and in the past have been hopping mad about it all especially when it appears the alienators in many cases get away with it and I guess it is those emotions that push me to seek "revenge", bad choice of word I know but it may be accurate.

Lately even though the alienation continues I have resiled somewhat from those emotions, still mad about it all but not to the extent I was say a year ago.

I guess I believe too much in things like justice prevailing, Karma etc and when those things do not seem to have any effect what are we left with, does not seem right to me that they get away with it all.

cheers Angel