Falsely accused of child abuse by .......

 

To whomever is willing to listen,
I am Tracy and in 1996, when I was 20, I had my first child, Is. Her father and I separated when Is was about 2 and a half. Her father is of Egyptian heritage and is very involved with not only the Egyptian communitybut also the Coptic Orthodox church (Egyptian christian). Whilst together Anthony and I had planned to be married twice, both times I cancelled, subsequentlyhumiliating him in front of the Egyptian community.Shortly after separating from Anthony, I moved into a 3 bedroom house with Is, while Anthony continued to live at home with his mother and siblings.Approximately 6 months after we separated, Anthony decided to go for custody of Is and with his family's support, obtained custody in 1999 due to instability on my part because of the fact I had just movedinto a rental property and they viewed Anthony's parents owned residence as more stable. They also made up claims that I had a gambling addiction, which was untrue.When Is was almost 9 years old, she started telling me about the trouble she was having with her father's new wife, S. She said S was being physically abusive by digging her nails into my daughter and twisted her ears, when nobody was watching. She also told me that her stepmother had accused Is of molesting her little brother M, after putting powder on him after she changed his nappy.The night before Is  returned into my care, she rang me absolutely distraught saying S was trying toget into her bedroom and is making threats against her life, which I could clearly hear while I was on the phone with Is.The next morning I drove to my daughters school, where I picked her up as her father was dropping her to school and told him Is was coming home with me, to stay. He had no objection.Is was home with me for almost 4 years until late in December 2009, when on one of her sporadic access visits with her father, he failed to return her. When I rang him to ask when he was going to bring her home, itwas then he informed me that he had no intention of returning Is because she wanted to live with himand that he would make sure I would never see her again.I went into total shock, I was 35 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child, T, at the time.
After trying desperately to contact Is by email and phone for the next 6 weeks, with no success, in mid Febuary 2010, just 2 weeks after giving birth, I answered the door to police, informing me Anthony was applyingfor an Intervention Order against me on behalf of Is.It went to court  on the 22nd of Febuary 2010.After speaking with the duty solicitor and hearing the allegations that were being made against me in the application, I broke down in tears, told the duty solicitor I wasn't going to contest it if that's what Is reallywanted. And walked out of the court absolutely beside myself, clutching my 3 weeks old baby.During this time my 2nd eldest daughters father, K, was informed by Anthony of the fabricatedallegations and decided not to return C after an access visit and hid her from me so I couldn't findher for 2 weeks.Little did I know K and Anthony were in on it together.I thought the matter was over and done with until I was out shopping with my 2 youngest daughters in Septemer 2010, when I received a phone call from the Police. They asked me where I was and could I come home. I said immediately and went straight home.When I arrived home I was met by approximately 8 plain clothed detectives in bullet proof vests, I was reeling.I immediately asked why they were here, towhich I was told that it was regarding Is. Tears welled upin my eyes as I asked if she was ok, by then it had been 7 months since I had even heard her voice. The policeinformed she was fine.I went into my house with the dectectives, it was then they informed me that they had a search warrant formy house and they proceeded to execute it, all in the presence of my 2 youngest children.I was then informed that serious allegations of physical abuse had been made against me and that sexual abuse allegations had been made against my partner, C.
According to the police, I held a 9 millimetre gun to Is's head and that was what they were searchingfor. They said claims had been made that I stabbed Is in the back with a steak knife while she was doing the dishes, I broke her nose by punching her in the face, then kicked her in the back. These were the mostserious allegations against me, there were several more but my partner was accused of digitally raping Is and masturbating in front of her.All VERY serious and disturbing allegations.As the police were conducting their search a woman from Child Protection proceeded then to take my 7 month old baby out of my arms and then took C, my 5 year old and put them both in her car, saying she was taking C to her father, K and Trinity would come with them to the police station while the police interviewed me.I was arrested and interviewed, all the while I could hear my baby in the room nextto me absolutely inconsolable as she had never spent a minute away from me since she was born. C came in during a break in the interview and promptly told me to breast feed my baby quicklyto settle her down before she then, again, took my baby away from me, where she continued crying. My mother came up to the police station about 30 minutes later, where she was handed T until I finished my interview at approximately 9.30pm at night. My baby's eyes were swollen from crying and it took me a while to get her to calm down.Then  came into the room my mother and I were in and told me that I was not to be unsupervisedwith T or C. So my mother supervised me with T by moving into my house for 4 weeks anda close friend from church was to supervise me during my time with C. My partner was not allowed anywhere near C and was not to be unsupervised with his 3 children, T and 2 other children from a previous relationship.It was during this time that K and C was awarded 50% custody of C, based on the allegations.He then informs me he will be moving and will be taking C with him and is going full custody of her.I tried desperately to stop this from happening but with allegations like this on the table, it made it easy for him to gain full custody of her.And in  2011, final orders were to be made in the family court regarding custody of Charlotte. I amtold by my barrister that there is absolutely no point in taking it to trial because I will lose solely based onthe allegations made against my partner and I.So K was granted full custody and in the final orders it states that my partner is never to be around,ever.I walk out of court, knowing that now I have lost 2 of my 3 children due to false allegations.
A few weeks later, I received a letter from the Police informing me they have done a thoroughinvestigation into the matter and had found absolutely no evidence to support the outrageous accusationsmade against me and they were closing the case and were not pursuing it any further.A little too late for me as the final hearing for C had already happened.
I decided to contest the application for an extention to the AVO Anthony had taken out against me on Is's behalf. It was heard at  magistrates court again in the middle of this year. It wasat this time Is was appointed an Independant Childrens lawyer, as the magistrate remarked, Is should have her own voice and that she didn't know if this was just a father trying to keep a daughter away from her mother.Then on approximately  August 2011, I went to the Childrens Court in the city and found her father didn't want to pursue the AVO for Is anymore but wanted a 5 year AVO for himself against me.The magistrate asked Is what she wanted and my daughter replied ' I want to see my mum'.  It was the first time I had heard her voice in almost 20 months!!The magistrate said to Is that she could see me towhich, Is asked the magistrate if she was allowedto hug me, upon the judge saying yes, Is almost crashed tackled me saying she had been wanting to seeme this whole time but her father, Aunty and grandmother wouldn't let her.Is was residing with her paternal grandmother at the time and when she returned back there fromcourt, her grandmother kicked her out saying if Is wanted to have anything to do with me she shouldpack her stuff and get out. Is finally came home on September 2011.During this past 20 months Child Protection supported both K and A at court,recommending that Is not be anywhere near me and that K should get custody of C dueto my lack of insight into the seriousness of the allegations.She told my partner  that she knows he did this to Is as it is 'rampant in his community'while she was interviewing C and I together.We were also told by C that child protection doesn't need evidence to take my other 2 children away, shesaid if it were just 'likely' that it happened they could take action.We were treated as though we were guilty and in the process my partner and I have been labelled abusers.
Since Is has come home she has told me how her father,  her Aunty, who is a school teacher, her grandmother and C's father K all conspired together and made her make these allegations against my partner and I so M could adopt I and K could get custody of C.During the 20 months that Is was gone she began self harming. She cut her arms and her legs and wasplaced into psychiatric care for several weeks at The Stepping Stones Program at Monash Adolescent PsychUnit.She has shown me 'scripts' they made her write out before she spoke to DHS or the police, so she wouldn't stuffthe story up.She told me that when they were telling her what to say about my partner she had to ask them topull the car over so she could throw up. I ask her why she threw up and she said because of what they weremaking her say. I asked her what happened next and she said even though they saw how much it upsether to do it, they still drove her to the police station to give their scripted statement.She has many minutes of recorded conversations between her father, herself and her grandmother, passivelyaggressively telling her what they want her to do.She told me that when my conspiritors found out my house had been searched and the 2 youngest girls weretaken off me they went out for celebratory drinks!!They brainwashed Is into thinking I no longer loved her and if she didn't go along with what they wantedshe would be homeless with nowhere to go.So it seems as though their plan had succeeded, until my daughter found the courage 2 days ago to go thepolice and tell them the truth.Now she has to make a decision as to whether she is going to make a formal statement to police regardingthe conspiracy against me, which may see her father end up in prison. Too much for a 15 year old girl who has been through so much psychologically, mentally and physically in the past 20 months but now is left with theguilt of knowing what she was manipulated into saying has effectively meant me losing custody of her 5 year old sister C. Who is not being cared for properly by her father. And desperately wants to come home.She asks me regularly why her other 2 sisters live with me but she doesn't, she wants to know what she did thatwas so bad. Can you imagine what that is doing to her psyche?
I believe wholeheartedly that my story needs to be told, so that it can not only highlight the extent a bitter expartner will go to hurt you but also because our Child Protective Services are an absolute disgrace.My whole family has been torn apart because of spite and revenge.I cant even begin to articulate the heartache I have had to endure in watching my once normal family, be obliterated in a second.Or how hard it was to read the paper and learn of another child that DHS had failed to protect. I cant tell youthe number of times I hurt for the children that were really in trouble because of the resources they so desperately needed, being wasted on me and my partner. We are by no means perfect but are far from child abusers.
I am absolutely flabbergasted at how someone can deliberately make false allegations against you and haveyour whole world turned upside down on absolutely no evidence.The irony is A has not paid his taxes in several years to avoid paying child support to me and has psychologically damaged not only my 15 year old daughter but my innocent 5 year old too and Child Protection were trying to keep my kids away from me!!
Now my 5 year old daughters father is not allowing me to see C at all. Surely there is something I can do?!?! He won't even let me speak to her on the phone now. He says that because my partner and I are still together, he doesn't trust that the orders will be followed andif I want to see C I should take him to court.Now I have no idea when I will see my 5 year old daughter and I have no idea what he has told her andhow much she must be hurting not only for not seeing me but not hearing my voice. Or seeing her two sistersUpon speaking to the Police they informed me that as the custodial parent, K, can keep her away from me if he thinks C is in danger.What am I supposed to do now??????
I have been told by a solicitor it will cost me $2500 to file for a contravention of orders, which I cannot afford.So unless I come up with $2500, I won't be able to see my daughter. This can't be right surely.
Is has decided to make a statement to police CIU.
Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have advice or think that injustices like mine should be told.


Kindest RegardsTracy N