Hello

Hello and thankyou for this site. I feel like I've finally found someone that may have some sort of idea of the personal hell I have been going thru to keep my relationship with my little daughter ( now just 5) in tact.

I have a very very clever ex wife, mothe of my daughter who just will not settle down unless perhaps I give her money but she always wants more so I refuse to give her money so she does her dastardly worst.

The reason I'm looking and found you is because the mother has another daughter, now 13 who, I've been told by human services she has been reported on by a third party and they are taking it seriously but HS have interviewed me, and lied etc, saying it involves my little daughter as a close relative of her half sister.

Of course the Mother has blamed all and every problem on me, saying because I do this and that she cant cope with her older one. I do nothing of the sort and have been an exemplary father and puttijng up with blue murder because the mother has residency, full pension and is seen as main carer even tho I parent my daughter 6 days pfn, if we end up in court she cries and lies and if they get the tiniest inkling we are fighting the decisions go her way. She is very clever and knows this so she can give me a hard time and I can do nothing and do do nothing apart from smile and get the hec out of her way when changing over with my daughter.

I am very upset with this latest fiasco, HS will not tell me if theire is a case open for my daughter. They wnat to see me again on Friday and tell me "their observations" from when they came to see me and my daughter interacting at home tho most of it was my daughter responding reluctantly to the HS persons q's and comments.

The mother has many supports and a two jobs, one of which is some agency that supports women and children. She is well networked into the labyrinthine women's support groups bla bla... she evern has some single woman professional type caring my daughter over nights etc.. .... so God knows who she knows and contacts she may evern have into HS as they all are female, no disrespect, but the gender bias in this arena is a joke, there are no male workers in any govt or agency field to do with the whole family law system.

I feel like throwing in the towel and let them see how my daughter will do without my care and input!!! WE are so bonded it is wonderful but i have had a huge battle and have had to make up a lot for the lack of nurturing and overcoming the negative input against me. And yes I have been falsely accused of heinous crimes which thank God I was cleared of but my poor little one had to go thru the abuse of the examinations and God knows what at the tiny tender little age of 3!!

So yeah reading this site has been the best thing thats happened to me and I will be in touch as I may be able to mount a case ... for example when that Arthur guy threw his daughter off the bridge my daughters mother yelled at me with babe in arms jsut before I'm gonna take her to my place " you going to throw her off the bridge like that man" or something.... i told HS and I got a blank stare.

Oh wel thanks for listening whoever

Andrew