Letter sent to all agencies MP's and Attorney General CBR

To whom it may “concern”,

I would like to bring to your attention a disturbing children's matter in need of urgent attention.

The matter involves three children aged 5, 7 & 9. The parents endured a stressful relationship while cohabiting together as the mother suffers from suspected psychological problems that severely effect her emotional stability and ability to cope which continues today.

In May 2008 the father left the family home temporarily in order to protect the children from the violent and emotional behaviour being constantly displayed by the mother. This behaviour was having a detrimental effect on the children on a day to day basis and the father was extremely concerned for their mental and physical wellbeing. As the mothers behaviour was generally aimed toward the father, he thought it best to remove himself from the mothers company while he attempted to persuade her to seek some professional therapy with or without his support or assistance.

The mother refused all assistance and relocated the children from their family home in Brisbane and brought them to Adelaide when family mediation with Relationships Australia was commenced as sought by the father. The mother refused mediation. The mother relocated to Adelaide in an attempt to prevent the father from ever seeing the children again as she had threatened in the past. The mother threatened that the father will never see his children again, will not know where they are, will have no money and living in the gutter or jail as she has knowledge of the methods how to frame the father for crimes he did not commit.

Both the mother, father and the children attended sessions with psychiatrists and psychologists at the request of the father in his Magistrates Court application to see the children.

The fathers mental health was reported to be calm and stable with a strong family and children focussed demeanour. It was reported that the father would have no problems or issues with caring for his children. He holds a position of authority with security clearance at a major airline and enjoyed a close and happy relationship with all three children during cohabitation. This was displayed when first reunited with them at supervised visits at a child contact service run by Relationships Australia at Campbelltown SA. The children were overjoyed to see their father, singing, dancing and telling stories, climbing happily all over him. The State facilitator of this service personally took photographs for the father during the visit showing how happy the children were to se him.

This relationship has regressed into the children telling assessors that they are scarred of their father and that he is coming to knock or burn their house down. This has come about even though the father has had no contact with them.

They say that “he doesn't buy us good presents” among other statements. The father has bought the children cards and presents for all occasions as well as visits however the mother seems to “Lose” ALL of these gifts by the time they get home? The mother refuses to accept gifts for the children when offered through the workers at the handover service.

The mothers diagnoses was more complex. The mother was reported to suffer from a condition known as a “paranoid stance” by a psychiatrist among other conditions. The family assessor psychologist reported that the mother attempted to manipulate her sessions with “cheat cards” and when this was not successful became agitated and withdrawn. She was reported to display “poor parenting” during the sessions with concern regarding her day to day relationship with the children. Also the mothers vocal opinions regarding their father within earshot, or directly to the children.

The mother has suffered with a depressive condition for many years. Often being placed on medication to help cope. However the mother consistently stopped taking the medication against the advice of her practitioners. The mother has attempted suicide in the past. A report by the mothers current therapist notes that she can be strongly suicidal and may be a risk to herself as she admits an inability to cope.

The mother has stated in the past that she “Will not co parent under any circumstances” and that she will abandon or harm the children as well as herself if she is forced to share the children by the courts.

The mother has lodged several allegations against the father in the past years to the current day. All of these allegations have been investigated by authorities such as Children's Protection Services, C.A.R.L, Crisis Care, Families SA and the Family Violence Unit at SAPOL.

Each time the allegations have been proven to be unfounded (and most likely malicious) and the father has been fully cleared of any wrong doings.

The father has provided all reports and recordings to Families SA and Children's Protective Services as requested by them and still little action has been taken to protect the children. It appears that it is easier to recommend that the father “just disappear” rather than take action to protect the children from the mother as no one ( e.g.; the father ) will be there to report what is going on.

Since 2003, several reports have been made to various child abuse agencies as well as the state police regarding concerns for the children's well being which all have been ignored including a recent report which was somehow “displaced” within the system and had to be re-reported two weeks later.

The father holds recordings of voicemails etc by the mother making such threats and intent to carry out the actions taken thus far. The mother also stated that “It is acceptable for a mother to kill her own children under certain circumstances” No authorities have willing to listen to any of these recorded threats.

The mother continues to alienate the father from his children even though there are currently Final Consent Orders in place with the Magistrates Court giving the father weekend time with all three children on a bi-weekly basis as well as half school holiday time. The hand over of the children takes place at a Relationships Australia Children's Contact Service at Campbelltown. However this does not happen as the children are simply given a choice whether or not to go and the father leaves with no children. It has been explained in the past that the mother offers presents and weekends away in exchange for the children not to go with the father.

The mother has breached the conditions of the CCS on several occasions and on one occasion threatened to kill the father which was officially reported to the Police and Relationships Australia but ignored.

The Relationships Australia Children's Contact service has now suspended all handovers at the centre because the father questioned their procedures and security arrangements at a meeting at head office on Friday 11^th February 2011. As the handover is court ordered to take place at Relationships Australia, this gives the Father no opportunity to have any contact what so ever with his children. If history is anything to go by, the mother will not agree to amend the orders or provide another handover option as she has not voluntarily agreed to any request so far in these proceedings.

In November 2010 the mother of the children again made allegations of abuse by the father. These allegations have been investigated by Child Protection Services, Families SA and the Family Violence Unit at SA Police. The father was fully cooperative and has been fully cleared of any wrong doing by all investigating parties. The mother however has NOT followed up on her concerns for her child's alleged abuse, simply as the father could not be implicated.

In the father's opinion, the mother should be expected to take all possible steps to investigate these supposed acts of sexual abuse to her children until a satisfactory explanation has been provided. The father is still waiting for such an explanation, however the case is expected to be closed shortly by Families SA under protest from the father.

The father still does not see, or have the opportunity to talk to any of his three children. He has not had contact with the elder two of his children now for almost three years.

This is not line with the governments new 50/50 parental rights policy. It also makes a mockery of written Final Consent Orders that the father has invested around $170,000 in fees to obtain. This is even though the mother has lawfully agreed to follow these orders at the time of signing, rather than face a trial at the Federal Magistrates Court in Feb 2010.

The father continues to pay child support payments although in reality has no chance of actually being a father to his children.

The father requests an urgent meeting with yourself to discuss the above and try to resolve this matter. It is apparent to all what is going on within this case, however no one or no department wants to be the one to take a stand - including the frustrated Magistrate who waits for someone else in authority to recommend suitable action to be ordered.

The father, with assistance is currently examining the actions of all departments and agencies involved in this case since 2003 using official reports and documents as many in-actions and cover ups have taken place thus far and will seek litigation for possible negligence.

Alternately the father will have no other option but to make these details publicly available worldwide.

Please reply to the writer (whom is the father) whether you are available for an urgent meeting to offer assistance with this matter by using any of the contact details above.